To see is to Believe^^ (Social Information Processing)

Internet became a powerful medium in our generation. It has a positive and negative impact in our daily lives. As a college student, the use of internet is vital on my part. It seems like my day is incomplete if I didn’t check my personal accounts such as (friendster, facebook, myspace, multiply, YM etc…)

Does it affect my life? Yes, it touches my life in so many ways….. It’s a place for socialization. I even believe that it can be a way for me to find love^^ because I heard lots of successful marriages, they met their lovers online. And as a big proof, my cousin found his current boyfriend in the same way.

Does relationship online can be more intimate? Well, I think so….It’s possible. But the development is eight times slower comparing to a face to face process of courtship. According to social Information processing- relationships only develop after exchanging information about each other. “Getting to know each other” as they say. It starts with simple hi and hello^^ until it goes deeper. Let me share my own experience about it. Here it goes….

I’ve been in to this kind of situation before. I met a guy online. Just like the others, we started from the scratch. Asking shallow question like what’s your name, age, course. Etc… We exchange information about each other through sharing different stories. We were updating each other about our daily experiences. We’re calling each other in YM and we even see each other on cam. We remain this way for about 5 weeks. Until he asked me for a date^^ Here comes the day, that I’ve been waiting for so long…I’m so excited to see him. Finally we met each other in a coffee shop; it was a rare feeling of consciousness. It was obvious that we were both uncomfortable. I think it’s just normal because that was our first innocent date. Goshhh! He’s Peculiar. I found out that he’s a different person, far different from what I expect him to be! Hehehe…..

I could say that we are just compatible online but not in personal^^ hahaha!

From this experience, I can say that somehow, Joe Walther has a point. “Hyper personal Perspective- relationship online can be more intimate”. Just like what happened to us it seems that communication online creates anonymity. Sometimes we find it easier to express our self in this way because we can lessen the possibility of rejection. On the other way around, face to face process of courtship is still the basis of reality. So I still go for it! To see is to believe.

Nice and funny!

As always

MARJORIE^^